美文欣賞：寂寞是種流行病
寂寞是種流行病
寂寞是一種人人都得過的流行病，不僅僅是孤獨無依的老人，不僅僅是沒有玩伴的孩子，寂寞的印記其實在我們每個人身上都能找到。
賈君鵬，你媽媽喊你回家——很平常的一句話，卻成了今年一個熱門而流行的網路語。當初，僅僅是那些玩遊戲的人的無聊之作，後來卻演變成無數網民參與的網路事件。寂寞嗎？很寂寞。寂寞了才會沉迷遊戲，寂寞了才會參與那些其實很無聊的網路事件。寂寞的網民們，寂寞的宅男宅女們，他們的時間和精力需要發洩的地方呀。
今天，你偷菜了嗎？很簡單的一句話，卻成了風靡辦公室的網路遊戲。遊戲畢竟是遊戲，得花時間和精力。只因為你寂寞，你要隨大流，參與到這種大家都玩的'遊戲當中。如果你不玩，你往往會因為沒共同語言而陷入難以自拔的寂寞當中。我的一個朋友本來覺得在網路上種菜偷菜挺無聊的，但他最終還是去偷菜了，現實的寂寞需要找到一種排遣，他發現在偷菜的人群裡原來很熱鬧。
寂寞本來是一個人的，卻常常演變成一群人的狂歡。所以年輕的男男女女們才會在繁重的工作之餘，三五成群，結伴去K歌，結伴去酒吧。通宵算什麼，反正一個人在家也是寂寞。寂寞會生長啊，越長越大，還會突然襲擊。有時候，你在熱鬧的人群中，你突然就感覺到了寂寞，這種寂寞最寂寞。
很多時候，寂寞的我們怕一個人待著，當自己一個人的時候，就非得找個伴嗎？其實我們應該學會和自己相處。很多時候，一個人也可以不寂寞，而和別人在一起卻很寂寞。很多寂寞其實都是可以忍受或排遣的，我們可以看看書，可以到大自然中走走，可以聽聽音樂，可以看看經典電影……寂寞是一種人人都得過的流行病，不要害怕，也不要難過，重要的是我們怎麼對待寂寞，讓寂寞的自己充實起來。
Get A Through Understanding Of Oneself 徹悟自己
In all one’s lifetime it is oneself that one spends the most time being with or dealing with. But it is precisely oneself that one has the least understanding of.
When you are going upwards in life you tend to overestimate yourself. It seems that everything you seek for is within your reach; luck and opportunities will come your way and you are overjoyed that they constitute part of your worth. When you are going downhill you tend to underestimate yourself, mistaking difficulties and adversities for your own incompetence. It’s likely that you think it wise for yourself to know our place and stay aloof from worldly wearing a mask of cowardice, behind which the flow of sap in your life will be retarded.
To get a thorough understanding of oneself is to gain a correct view of oneself and be a sober realist—aware of both one’s strength and shortage. You may look forward hopefully to the future but be sure not to expect too much, for ideals can never be fully realized. You may be courageous to meet challenges but it should be clear to you where to direct your efforts. That’s to way so long as you have a perfect knowledge of yourself there won’t be difficulties you can’t overcome, or obstacles you can’t surmount.
To get a thorough understanding of oneself needs self-appreciation. Whether you liken yourself to a towering tree or a blade of grass, whether you think you are a high mountain or a small stone, you represent a state of nature that has its own value. If you earnestly admire yourself you’ll have a real sense of self-appreciation, which will give you confidence. As soon as you gain full confidence in yourself you’ll be enabled to fight and overcome any adversity.
To get a thorough understanding of oneself also requires doing oneself a favor when it’s needed. In time of anger, do yourself a favor by giving vent to it in a quiet place so that you won’t be hurt by its flames; in time of sadness, do yourself a favor by sharing
it with your friends so as to change a gloomy mood into a cheerful one; in time of tiredness, do yourself a favor by getting a good sleep or taking some tonic. Show yourself loving concern about your health and daily life. As you are aware, what a person physically has is but a human body that’s vulnerable when exposed to the elements. So if you fall ill, it’s up to you to take a good care of yourself. Unless you know perfectly well when and how to do yourself a favor, you won’t be confident and ready enough to resist the attack of illness.
To get a thorough understanding of oneself is to get a full control of one’s life. Then one will find one’s life full of color and flavor.
人生在世，和“自己”相處最多，打交道最多，但是往往悟不透“自己”。
人在走上坡路時，往往把自己估計得過高，似乎一切所求的東西都唾手可得，甚至把運氣和機遇也看做自己身價的一部分而喜不自勝。人在不得意時，又往往把自己估計過低，把困難和不利也看作自己的無能，以至把安分守己、與世無爭誤認為有自知之明，而實際上往往被怯懦的面具窒息了自己鮮活的生命。
悟透自己，就是正確認識自己，也就是說要做一個冷靜的現實主義者，既知道自己的優勢，也知道自己的不足。我們可以憧憬人生，但期望值不能過高。因為在現實中，理想總是會打折扣的。可以迎接挑戰，但是必須清楚自己努力的方向。也就是說，人一旦有了自知之明，也就沒有什麼克服不了的困難，沒有什麼過不去的難關。
要悟透自己就要欣賞自己。無論你是一棵參天大樹，還是一棵小草，無論你成為一座巍峨的高山，還是一塊小小的石頭，都是一種天然，都有自己存在的價值。只要你認真地欣賞自己，你就會擁有一個真正的自我。只有自我欣賞才會有信心，一旦擁有了信心也就擁有了抵禦一切逆境的動力。
要悟透自己，就要心疼自己。在氣憤時心疼一下自己，找個僻靜處散散心，宣洩宣洩，不要讓那些無名之火傷身；憂傷時，要心疼一下自己，找三五個好友，訴說訴說，讓感情的陰天變晴；勞累時，你也要心疼一下自己，為自己來一番問寒問暖，要明白人所擁有的不過是一個血肉之軀，經不住太多的風刀霜劍；有病時，你更要心疼一下自己，惟有對自己的心疼，才能獲得戰勝疾病的信心和力量。
悟透了自己，才能把握住自己，你的生活才會有滋有味！
